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Taking Ownership of Your Wellness: No One Else Can Shoulder the Blame

Your wellness

This blog post is going to make some of you mad. But as someone who has been in the wellness realm for the majority of my life, I've seen this on repeat. You see... In life, it's easy to fall into the trap of attributing our failures and shortcomings to external factors, other people, or circumstances beyond our control. But if we truly want to lead a fulfilling and healthy life, we must recognize that our wellness is primarily our responsibility. Blaming others for our failures and neglecting our own well-being only hinders our personal growth and happiness.

Your Wellness, Your Responsibility

  1. Physical Health: Maintaining good physical health is crucial for overall well-being. It's not your doctor/teacher/coach/personal trainer's responsibility to make sure you eat nutritious meals, exercise regularly, or get enough sleep. It's your body, and you are the one who must make the choices that support or hinder your health. Blaming genetics or busy schedules only masks the truth: you have the power to make positive changes.

  2. Mental Health: Mental well-being is just as important as physical health. Stress, anxiety, and depression are struggles that many people face, but it's up to us to seek help and take steps to manage these challenges. Blaming external circumstances or people for our mental health issues often keeps us trapped in a cycle of negativity. Taking responsibility means acknowledging your feelings and seeking the necessary support and coping strategies.

The Dangers of Blame

Blaming others for our failures can be emotionally draining and counterproductive. It shifts the locus of control from yourself to external factors, leaving you feeling helpless. It can also damage relationships, as people may grow tired of being the scapegoat for your problems.

Empowerment through Responsibility

Taking ownership of your wellness is empowering. When you accept that you are responsible for your health, you regain control over your life and can make meaningful changes.

  1. Set Realistic Goals: Taking responsibility for your wellness allows you to set achievable goals and work towards them, whether it's losing weight, managing stress, or improving your mental health. You'll be more likely to succeed when you understand that the power to change is in your hands.

  2. Seek Support: Owning your wellness doesn't mean you have to go it alone. Reach out to a group like ours (the Solshinei Tribe), friends, family, or professionals for support and guidance. These relationships can be invaluable in your journey toward better health.

  3. Learn from Mistakes: When you take responsibility, you acknowledge that setbacks and mistakes are a natural part of life. Instead of placing blame, you can learn from these experiences and use them as stepping stones to growth.


Taking responsibility for your wellness is not an easy task, but it's essential for personal growth and happiness. Blaming others may provide temporary relief, but it ultimately obstructs your path to a healthier, more fulfilling life. Embrace the power to change, set achievable goals, seek support, and learn from your mistakes. Remember, your wellness is your responsibility, and the journey to better health starts with the decision to take charge of your life.

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